This one’s for the Enneagram 2’s. Where are my helpers? I’m giving you permission, right now, to stop what you’re doing and assess when the last time was that you did something for the betterment of yourself, be it physical, mental/emotional, or spiritual. Although cliche, the statement, “you can’t pour from an empty cup,” is truer than true. And we helpers are guilty of endeavoring to pour from an empty cup all too often.

While I can uplift and encourage others all day long, my self-talk is less than kind at times. In mid-November, it had become dire, and I desperately needed to change something. One of the best decisions I made was to make time for myself every day to get 30 minutes of fresh air and activity. The health benefits of walking far exceed the physical. Those 30 minutes a day away from screens and all other responsibilities gave me the space I needed to process life’s challenges and make it through one of my toughest winters of Seasonal Affective Disorder yet.

In February, I began to notice a pattern of increased anxiety. It escalated so rapidly, that I broke down and called my primary care physician and got started on some blood pressure medication as well as scheduled an appointment with a therapist. My ability to control everything was spiraling, and I needed professional help to process past trauma that I could no longer stuff down, as it was manifesting itself physically. That week was an emotional roller coaster, as the pain of letting go of my pride, surrendering, and getting help was astronomical. As many times as I have told others that there is no shame in getting help, I had to convince myself that the same was true for me.

The bonus to prioritizing my health is that I was able to serve others more and better because I was refueling my mind and body to do so. Allowing professionals to do their job and help me brought me closer to optimal health. Sit down and take a minute to check your body battery. Are you running on empty? What would help you recharge? Write down some ideas of steps you can take, starting today, to refill that cup. They don’t have to be costly or require a ton of time, although I am not against a splurge when needed. I promise it’s worth the investment in yourself. Fill up, and then keep pouring, friends!

XO, Katie